Why men can’t understand women is simple. They don’t think outside of the box they always think that all women are the same and that we want money, someone with a great body, and who looks like the best thing in the world. When really those are just accesories to add on, when what really matters is a good conversation. Why would we want someone who has all physical qualities with no since, can’t hold a conversation for more than five minutes. Really it’s the little things that count as well. For example us women look at things like this; our birthdays for example you don’t always have to buy a very exspensive gift. If you make us a card and bake a cake yourself that would mean more than any bought item for the simple fact it was something you did within your time. Like they say it’s the thought that counts. Next thing is when an argument takes place you don’t always have to say sorry to be honest some of us like a man who is not soft. If you know for a fact or even feel that you were mistreated stand your ground. We actually like someone who is not so soft. And my last point is communication. Every now and then a little one on one serious conversation would be good. The problem with men not understanding women is the lack of communication. So think aboout it men we are not as difficult as you think it’s just the simple things that can seem the hardest to you. Remember the little things sometimes stand out more. RaSondra
do we have the right February 26, 2007
This day and age people are starting to become more open with what they do. One main thing I noticed peoples sexuality. More and more people are starting to open up about being gay. But there is one main statement I want to put out and address and that’s do people who are not of the same status have the right to judge those who do. In my opinion I don’t think there is nothing wrong with voicing your opinion it’s just the way that you put it out there. At one point I use to not be open minded about gay people. I use to think that they were just basically bad people. Untill eventually people very close to me started opening up about there sexuality and come to find out they were no different. My best friend, a family member, even teammates came out of the closet. That opened me up to see that they are just like me really nothing more, nothing less. Gay people have always been around it’s just that they were never as open as they are this day and age. Everywhere you go you see the open expressions of those who are gay and what I noticed is that they walk and act with confidence. Almost a decade ago you could not express that you were gay without being talked about so bad that you would transfer schools; or even beat up very badly. But now that’s history. Of course you have people who will make their comments here and there, but on the up and up it’s not that bad. Gay people are facing bigger things like human rights. Do they have the right to get married, adopt children, collect insurance things of that nature. Many people of high authority have a lot to do with the comlications of gay rights. But honestly do we have the right to judge them and say what rights do they have. I don’t think it’s right, for the simple fact they are going to still do what they want reguardless to what others say or do. Just think about it what if they all come together and come agianst us and judge us we would not like it at all. Everywhere we would go they would say mean things to us and maybe threaten us; it’s just not cool. So in my opion what we need to do is just learn to live with it, and if it bothers us that bad then we need to stay off to ourselves and stay away. Me personally I am not gay, but I learned to be open minded and think outside the box. So what we need to do is not judge, why because honestly we don’t have the right.
rasondra
Difference between sex and gender February 3, 2007
A lot people tend to get sex and gender mixed up. Some even believe that they are the same thing but with different words. As we talked in class on Friday, January 26th, 2007, Ms. Gerds asked in our opinion on what he thought the difference was between sex and gender. Some students had no idea. A few students answered and got it correct. To me, I believe that sex is the actually genitals that one has, such as male and female. Gender is were it gets tricky and people dont understand. Gender can be were me as a male, I appear male on the outside, but on the inside I am a woman. I may have hormones as a woman, or I do things that woman do. Vice Versa with women also, were they tend to feel more like man than a woman. These examples would be considered gender. Sex really has no gray areas, but sex is not biologically given. You may be born with a penis or a vagina, but nowadays there are surgeries that people can get done to feel like the opposite sex. People who consider getting surgeries are known as transexuals. This is basically were a person is a male but they tend to do and act like a female, and vice versa. It is were a person of a sex wants to be the other sex but can’t. Last semester I took anthropology 2100 and we spend time talking about gender. The term being transgendered is an umbrella term, with other words that follow underneath it. Some words that follow underneath it is transsexual, which means this person wants to get a sexual reassignment. The other word is transvestite, which means that like to dress like the opposite sex. The word cross-dresser also follows in the category tranvestite. During this time we were studying gender in the anthropology class, we watched a movie “Burning in Paris”, and this showed African American gay men, either wanting to be cross-dressers or transvestite and transsexuals. They were proud of who they were and had no shame in it. In the movie they had these things call balls, where they would have a dance off of a dance style called vogue. This dance style started off with the gay community and then became a style of dance for years. Anyways at these balls they would have different themes such as business man, police officer, etc., they had these because it may them feel important and they had a chance to fantasize about the real world, because a lot of them are poor, etc. At first I was skeptical about watching this, but after watching it, it was fairly interesting. Myself I have no problem with homosexuals, lesbians, transsexuals or even transvestites, what they do is their business and how they feel and I dont believe that people should judge them for who they, what they do, and what they believe in. So reading this blog and possibly watching “Burning in Paris” will help you get over on judging people different from being in a straight orientation.
-Broc Setty
Gender February 3, 2007
I believe that male is male and female is female. I don’t think that there is a “grey area” or in between. Society has said what they think and what they believe, but we know what are parents have taught us. After you have learned from your parents and you become your own person, I don’t think that you what your gender is. Some people may believe that you can be male or female and then feel like the oposite on the inside.I don’t believe that. If you are a male you should feel like a male as well as females.Just because a male like to groom themselves doesn’t mean that they are a woman on the inside or anything else. Some people like to make sure that their appearence is the best.For instance I am a female. I don’t have to think twice. However, I like watching sports, I like to wrestle and sometimes when my brother burp I rate them. I know that is not exactly what people think females should sit and do , but thats me. I don’t feel like a male inside because I do those things. I am comfortable with myself and my sexuality.I don’t understand why people make themselves look one way and say that they feel another. You shouldn’t change how you look for no one. I think that people go overboard about gender because as I stated earlier society make people believe that you have to be a certain way to be accepted.
I also think that the media play a major role as well. The media portray celebrity’s as being flawless when we know that nothing or anyone is perfect. I feel like that image apply pressure to people because they want that life and they get a perception of how they should feel an think so they can be like that person. People don’t stress enough how important it is to be you own person.People will say that when a girl is curious then she is no good, but when a guy does it then he is a superstar. No, it is the same across the board. No one should give themselves away freely. I think that God made you just how you he wanted. We may not always agree, but once we learn to accept it we can do great things. Most of all, I believe it is a mind game. Once we know who we are then you will know that the difference between gender is male and female.
stephanie
we both come from the same place, are we really as diffrent as we think February 2, 2007
we all have parents right? i’m assuming there male and female, because they’d have to be. i mean, two males or two females can’t make a baby. so, in that way we are all the same. we all have parents, a mom and a dad.
the question i wish to raise is, does the way we are raised by our parents determine how masculine or feminine we are? if you grew up without a father, will you be more like a female because your mother raised you? if you grew up without a mother, will you be more like a male because your father raised you?
i argue that, our parents and the way that they raise us helps us define (from a very early age) what boys do, and girls do. and ‘how to be a boy’ and ‘how to be a girl’. i mean think about it, if you grew up with a sister you may have 10 times a better understanding of what defines a female than someone who grew up as a single child.
the other question i wish to ask is, if we didn’t have defining male or female body parts . . if we all shared identical physical characteristics, would we still be able to tell who is a man and who is a woman? i honestly don’t believe we would, because we all have personalities that define us as ‘people’. if we couldn’t look at a person and see that they have long hair, or bigger muscles around there arms, and breasts or peks.. we would no longer be able to define that persons gender, and that person would simply be a ‘person’.. and i think i (personally) would feel a great weight lifted off my shoulders if i didn’t have to worry about that beautiful face across the room and trying not to stare at that gorgeous girl walking down the hall. but by no means, would i ever be able to live like that, it would just be nice if we had an ‘on/off’ switch or something.
p osted by; Richard Lannen
Why are Women so Complicated? February 2, 2007
Gender; dictionary definition: the sex of an individual, male or female, based on reproductive anatomy. Now if you’re like me the word gender just explains how you’re going to treat someone. This does not mean that I am a sexist pig against women or anything, it’s just that men and women should be treated differently. For example when I’m at work and a women walks into the store, the first words to come out of my mouth are usually “Hi how are you?” “How are you doing on this lovely evening?” She’ll reply by usually saying “I’m fine and how are you?” Now that’s how you should treat a lady. But if it were a man the conversation might go a little like this: “What’s going on, you chillin?” Do you see how gender kicks in? I’m not sure if this is a psychological thing or if men have lowered their standards so low that they are not offended by the way you greet them. Most men have trouble understanding these simple things you must do in order to have a women respect you.
Women I believe have this like thing where they think of something and keep it to themselves, and they will not bring it up unless you (men) somehow think of it and bring it up first. For example my ex-girlfriend and I communicated pretty well I would say, but there were times where she would be angry. When I would approach her and ask her what’s wrong? She would for some reason become angrier as if I were supposed to know what was actually wrong. This is one thing I will never understand about women. Why do women take it offensive when you try to help? Is it because they feel inferior and they feel that they could help themselves, or is it because all women out there are born believing that they can do whatever men can do. All I’m trying to get across is why the heck are women so complicated???
Gender also plays many other roles in our society today, such as deciding on leaders, becoming friends, or even who to respect. Some men raise their sons to treat women as if they were an object rather then a person. I witnessed this first hand. A relative of mine believes that his wife is “lucky” to have a husband like him, who at least comes home to her and tells her hi once and a while. This is where I believe that women are taken for granted, in the household. Studies have shown women who do have a violent/non loving relationship with their husbands have less than two kids. Who are men to beat their wives or tell them how to live their day to day lives? You must remember one thing, and I know it’s sort of a cliché, but I believe its 100 percent true, behind every successful man there is a woman.
Back to gender this is my difference between gender and sex, sex to me is the difference in your physical anatomy, and gender is just a word that reminds me how to engage, whether it’s in conversation or any sort of communication, to the opposite sex. Thankfully I learned the proper way to act in front of men and women. Now I’m not saying that I’m GQ smooth or some kind of pimp, but I do know the difference in treating men and women.
Alaa Bazzi, Yeah I know it’s late! 
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus February 2, 2007
Men can’t live without women, and women can’t live without men, we are all interdependent on each other. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, this asserts that men and woman are as different as beings from other planets. We are humans and there are differences that distinguish a male from a female, not just by sex but by the way they would speak, act, dress, etc. For a mother to exist their has to be a father and vice versa, we are meant to be together by nature. We can not live without the other sex, for many reasons.
It is very fashionable to believe that we are all persons first, and members of our gender second. We might all think that, but lets all be honest we are different. We are different in our habits, and they way we react to environmental stimuli and the way we spend our leisure time, and we are especially different when it comes to our attitudes regarding relationships.
Relationships:
First of all a man does not call it a relationship. He refers to it as romance, or a period of dating, of going out. When a relationship ends, a woman will cry, and pour her heart out to her girlfriends, and she will write a poem titled “All Men are Idiots.” And then she will get on with her life.
A man has a little more trouble letting go. For maybe six months, his ex may not hear him, but then at three on Saturday night or Sunday morning he will call and say. “I just wanted to let you know you ruined my life, and I will never forgive you, and I hate you, and you’re a total blah blah. But I want to let you know there is always a chance for us.”
Handwriting:
To their credit men do not decorate their penmanship. We just chickenscratch. But women on the other hand use scented, colored stationary, and they dot their “i’s” with circles and hearts. They use ridiculously large loops in their p’s and g’s. It is a royal pain to read a note from a woman, even when she is dumping you she will put a smiley face at the end of the note.
Bathrooms:
A man has 6 items in his bathroom: a toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving cream, a razor, a bar of soap and a towel. And the average number of items in a typical women’s bathroom is 237. A regular man would not be able to identify most of these items.
Going OuT:
Now when a man says he is ready to go out, it means he is ready to got out, and when a woman says she is ready to go out, it means she will be ready, as soon as she makes one phone call and finds her other earring.
Shoes:
When preparing for work, a woman will slip on casual shoes, she will carry her dress shoes in a plastic bag. When a woman gets to work, she will put on her dress shoes, five minutes later she will kick them off because her feet are under the desk. A man will wear one pair of shoes for the entire day>VERY SIMPLE HUH LADIES!
TELEPHONE:
And now my favorite part to rip on the ladies, us MEN see the telephone as a communicating tool. WE use it to send short messages to other people. A woman can visit her girlfriend for umm maybe two weeks and upon returning home, she will call the same friend and they will TALKKKKKKKKKKKKK for three hours,, man ladies WHAT IS IT THAT GOES IN YOUR MINDS!!! I JUST WANDER!!!!!!!
I can go on and on and ON but I think that’s enough and anyway it meets my requirement for the blog post, but I hope you do understand from what I am saying we are not TOTALLY different but there are things that separate us, NO hating ladies, you know we all love you…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….at times, at least, I guess.
“Mohamed Nasser”
To be or not to be, a man. February 2, 2007
While reading Paul Theroux’s Being a Man, I found myself strongly agreeing with him. If it were not bad enough to worry about people’s judgment of race and cultural background, one must also deal with issues pertaining to gender. Some may argue that it is easier to be a male than female, which is true in some aspects, but in my opinion I would not want to be anything other than a woman. I believe that women have a huge advantage over men. Women have the power of expression. Women can cry and be emotional and express deep feelings with out any controversy. At a young age men are taught to keep those feelings to themselves and to be a “man,” whatever that is supposed to mean. Instead of a book men are encouraged to pick up a football. I would not want my self-measurement to be based upon how many games I’ve won.
Even though I am happy that I was born a woman, I do feel stressed at times. Just as men face pressure to be “manly” men, women face pressure to be the painted, perfect picture. Body image is probably one of the most prominent issues women deal with. Thanks to TV, magazines, and high fashion women have a pretty steep standard to reach. A woman may not agree with the standards set and she may be perfectly content with the way she is, but it is very common for even the secure woman to begin to think otherwise. A woman may see another woman who is extremely gorgeous and begin to doubt her own features. Women are most critical of themselves and other women. Like the idea that women dress for other women because most men do not even pay attention to women’s latest fashion. Because of the emphasis on physical appearance in the female world, anorexia and bulimia have become popular among many young women. And because women look so good they often have to deal with sexual harassment and the treatment of being an object. A lot of times men are only interested in appearance and not personality.
I as a woman do not feel any less adequate. I do not feel inferior to men. Sure I have dealt with situations where men did not take me seriously, but I do not let it get to me. It is simply a default in their mold. As far as body image goes, I have my days. I feel pressure and am conscious of it, but I do not let it run my life. The only thing that really irritates me is being treated as an object. I am not a sex toy. I am a human being with a heartbeat and a brain just like any man’s. I find myself constantly having to deal with inappropriate comments and gestures. I wish a man could look me in the eye rather than stare at my chest. At the same time that I am infuriated by these incidents, part of me laughs at how pathetic the male sex can be and at how much power a woman can have over a man because of her sexuality.
I completely agree with Theroux when he says that men are disgusting, selfish, and unfeeling. I am not sure if I blame men completely for their stupidity. I guess it is partially society’s fault for taking away a man’s ability to develop real relationships and express themselves in any other way besides sports, drinking, and other “man” things. Men are incapable of feeling or truly caring about a woman’s feelings. Men are not only too afraid of woman to get that close, but it is also a game to them. Like any other sport it is merely a competition. Once the man has won the affection and love of a woman, guess what, it is game over and time to play another field. The fact that men keep all of their feelings and emotions pent up makes them almost inhuman. Men are not raised to think and imagine, but rather to be men. For a man there is no growing up and finding himself. Who he will become is told to him at a young age, all he must do is follow the guidelines.
Besides dealing with pregnancy and a menstrual cycle every month, women have it a little easier than men. There are a lot of pressures and hardships for both sexes, but in the end I would still rather be a woman. I just could not imagine going through life unable to express myself fully. I would hate to be accepted only if I showed anger and aggression. Writing is a passion of mine and through writing comes expression and feeling. Somehow I feel that if I were a man I would be denied my passion of writing and reading and in other ways being human.
~*Sarah*~
Men think women are “heartless”??? No… February 2, 2007
Its funny how whenever there is a breakup, whether the breakup was planned or not, whoever does the “breaking up” has it better off. I have had and seen many relationships in the past and after the breakup generally the two people are in remorse. However, the person, who initiated it, will recover a lot faster. I think it’s funny (not “ha ha” funny, more like awkward funny) especially when I hear both sides of the couple want to breakup. Yet, when it comes time to the breakup the victim of it is always distraught. For some reason the victim always seems to have the hardest time picking up the pieces; even though both of them want to break up in the beginning, weird.
I’ve noticed, that generally, men think women do not care about relationships as much as women do. They say this because after a girl breaks up with them they are stuck in a rut for an extended period of time, while the ex-girlfriend has another boyfriend one or two weeks later. However, after a guy breaks up with a girl he can oddly start dating someone else without a problem. So why is it women are “deamonized” for breaking up with someone and dating someone else? I really do not know. Maybe women are more vocal about it.
When guys fight we usually fight until when we think they, the opponent, can’t take anything any more. Women generally go for the kill, when they want someone to fall they do what it takes to push them over the edge. This is not all women, but only my general view from the past 20 years. The past couple girlfriends I had would tell me about their exes and how much they didn’t like them. Or compare me to them and how I am so much better. Oddly enough though I would see the same pattern happen after we would breakup; I would be put along side the “bad” exes, and deamonized myself.
I think men think women are “heartless” because women don’t want to dwell in the past, while most guys live in the past. Guys want to be with the girl that broke their heart. Guys want what they can’t have. They blew their shot and didn’t get the girl in the end. So instead of trying to date someone, guys generally stay depressed and vocalize why they don’t like their ex-girlfriend. Women on the other hand want to forget about their past relationship so fast that they will date or go out with the first guy that appeals to them, because they’re sick of the high school bullshit. They want to forget about the last guy and try to start over again.
The funny part is that I wonder why people these days can’t just sort things out. No one can talk anymore to each other. Everyone is everyone’s enemy. We as Americans have this horrid thought that everyone is their enemy until they prove themselves “worthy.” Everyone judges each other before even beginning to know the person it is complete bullshit and always will be. Because, Americans won’t give their spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend, or even friends a chance to explain themselves for the things they have done wrong in the past, we will always have this added hostility in our world.
-Jerry Jarvis
I have many views on gender and will try my best to make them understandable in this blog February 2, 2007
When most people hear the word “gender” they think of male or female. I believe that the definition of gender stretches much further than just male of female. I believe that woman are discriminated against whether it is verbally or just by the way us men act towards and around them. In the case of work: when I used to work at UPS we used to have woman that worked with us in the warehouse to load up the trucks. If we would offer a woman help with a package they would say no they got it or they can handle it even though you see that they are struggeling. No matter how many times the woman say no us men are always offering a helping hand to them. Many woman that worked there would find this discriminatory because they would say “I would’nt be working here if I could’nt handle the job.” BUT if a man saw a woman struggeling and he jus walked passed her and laughed and was like ”good luck with that” she would be like “what an asshole.” Woman expect a man to ask them if they need help but when they are offered most of them will deny the help to prove that they are also able to get a job done that you would only think men should be doing. Another example of a way that I believe woman are discriminated against is in the field of sales. When a man walks in to a footlocker and is looking for a pair of basketball shoes he usually expects to have a guy to ask. If a woman comes up to him and asks if he needs help he usually will say no and wait for a guy to ask him. It’s the way society is. Men believe that men would know more about shoes and they think that the woman wouldn’t know what he is talking about if he asks about getting the new kobe Bryant’s for example. Another example is when I used to work at gardner white furniture. Customers would walk in and would be greeted by a saleswoman and usually ignore her hoping to have a man help them and talk about the furniture. What most customers that used to come there didn’t know was that all salespeople at gardner white each specialize in furniture and attend class each week to learn about the furniture which means the saleswoman knows just as much as the salesman if not more. Sometimes woman are also discriminatory against each other also. Many woman customers are gardner white would try to get a male to help them because they just perceive that the male would know more than the female when it came down to furniture. If the woman didn’t know anything about furniture they would not be employees at gardner white. This is pretty much what I was trying to prove in this blog!!.
In conclusion I hope you understood my point in the way woman are discriminated against in our society these days. Society needs to come together and treat everybody equally whether male or female.
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